Side Kicks Family Karate
"Your Family's Personal Life
Skills Center"
MAKING CHAMPIONS OF YOUR CHILDREN
First,
work to build your children’s self-esteem. From the day they are born, affirm
them a great deal. Believe in them and give them lots of positive feed back.
Always express confidence in them and their potential. Try not to compare with
other children or with other people. The way people feel about themselves
inside is the real key to using their talent and releasing their potential. How
they feel about themselves is largely a function of how they are seen and
treated by others, particularly their parents.
Second,
encourage primary greatness. Teach them that there are two kinds of greatness:
primary greatness – which is the principle-centered character – and secondary
greatness – which is the greatness that the world acknowledges. That’s been a
constant theme. Try to inspire them to go for primary greatness first and not
to compensate for character weakness by substituting or borrowing strength from
a secondary source (popularity, reputation, possessions, natural talents, and
so on).
Third,
encourage them to develop their own interests. When you detect real talent in
your children, you encourage them to develop it.
Fourth,
try to create an enjoyable family culture. Create an atmosphere for your
children to get more fun and satisfaction from the family than from the school
or from their peers or from any other outside influence. Have your family
culture to be fun and affirming and to have many opportunities associated with
it. Try to have regular dates, at least once a month, with each child and do
something that is special to that child. Try to keep many positive and
encouraging events like birthdays, etc. Always express why they love or
appreciate each other.
Fifth,
plan ahead. Plan several major family events at least six months in advance.
Many parents fail to make champions of their children by not planning fun
family event – events that become traditional.
Sixth,
try to set an example of excellence. Try to excel in what you do so that
excellence becomes an unspoken, unwritten norm. You will never have to tell
your children to study and to do homework, if they constantly sense the value
of reading and learning through your actions.
Seventh,
teach them to visualize to help them realize their own potential. Visualization
is based on the principle that all things are created twice: first mentally and
the physically.
Eighth,
adopt their friends. Individual champions are often part of championship teams.
That’s why you should invest so much in the team and clubs, schools and
classes, your children belong to. When family, friends and school are all
aligned, it makes a powerful training system. Anytime something gets out of
alignment – when there’s a problem with a peer, for example – just adopt the
peer. It’s better than trying to get them to drop the peer.
Ninth,
teach them to have faith, to believe and trust others, and to affirm, build,
bless and serve others. Empathy is the key to influence. You’ve got to be very
sensitive to the feeling and perceptions of others. If you are going to build
champions, you’ve got to take an interest in people, especially the downcast
and outcast. The key to the ninety-nine, is the one.
Side Kicks Family Karate,
Sensei Brian Seetge
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